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“Ask a Priest: I Am an IVF Child – Do I Have a Soul?”

Q: I am a child made through in vitro fertilization. Two of my three siblings are also IVF babies. I have heard mixed answers about what this means for us. Do we have souls? Does God still love us? What does this mean for our parents? I do not know if they knew in vitro was wrong when they did this procedure. Thank you so much! — K.

Answered by Fr. Edward McIlmail, LC

A: You and your siblings certainly have souls, and you all are certainly beloved children of God. And ultimately you were not “made” but created out of love by Our Lord.

Your parents were not correct about how they went about achieving pregnancy. But that isn’t your fault. Despite their error, God managed to bring about something good and wonderful: He brought you and your siblings into the world.

Perhaps you can pray for your parents, that they understand and repent for what they did.

God’s design is for children to be the fruit of a loving embrace of a husband and wife, the fruit of marital intimacy.

Though that did not happen in this case, you need not worry about your own worth. You are unique and precious to God.

Jesus suffered and died on a cross for love of you, and he only wants the best for you. He wants you to be a saint.

One way to move toward sanctity is to pray for all your family, that they all reach heaven someday. God bless you!

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“Ask a Priest: Does the Soul Receive the Divine Essence?”

Q: Does the soul receive the divine essence, and is it present in that soul when the human dies? And is receiving the essence different from what some call “participating” in it? — K.D.

Answered by Fr. Edward McIlmail, LC

A: The divine essence is another way of saying the essence of God — what makes him God. In philosophical terms we could say that God’s essence is his existence. “I am who I am” (Exodus 3:14).

We don’t receive God’s essence – that belongs to him alone – but rather we participate in it. We benefit from it and “share in the divine nature” (2 Peter 1:4). Scripture says that to those who “did accept [Christ] he gave power to become children of God” (John 1:12).

This sharing in the divine nature is a little like a baby who is born to American parents in the U.S. The baby automatically benefits from certain privileges of citizenship that aren’t of the baby’s own doing. The benefits we derive from sharing in the divine nature, of course, are much deeper and greater.

Once created, we depend on God to hold us in existence at every moment. We can’t exist on our own power. God alone exists on his own.

At death, the soul leaves the body and goes to its particular judgment. It remains essentially the same soul as it was before the death of the body. Which means it continues to participate in God’s essence by its (the soul’s) very existence. And this goes on for eternity.

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“Ask a Priest: Weren’t Adam and Eve the Result of Alchemy, Not Creation?”

Q: So I was just wondering if God the Father created everything from nothing, how it is that he created Adam from dust and Eve from Adam’s rib? I’m sorry, that’s not creation, that’s alchemy. Also, Christ said call no one on earth “father.” Pretty sure he wasn’t joking around about that. – M.S.

Answered by Fr. Edward McIlmail, LC

A: Even if God formed Adam and Eve with the use of pre-existing material (dust or a rib), God is still the ultimate creator of that dust and rib. In any case humans are comprised of body and souls, and their souls have to be created “in the moment,” so to speak. So in a real sense a person (a unity of body and soul) isn’t created until “in the moment” — by God, of course.

As for Jesus’ comment about not calling people father, his intention was to drive home the idea that God the Father is a Father in a singular way for each of us. God is Father in a far more perfect way than anyone on earth could be.

Jesus certainly didn’t mean that we should ban the use of the title altogether. If we never called anyone on earth father, the very title, when applied to God, would have no meaning for us.

Besides, Scripture itself often applies the title “father” to humans. Just look at the first chapter of Luke’s Gospel:

— “He will go before him in the spirit and power of Elijah to turn the hearts of fathers toward children” (verse 17).

— “The Lord God will give him the throne of David his father” (v. 32).

— “… according to his promise to our fathers, to Abraham and to his descendants forever” (v. 55).

— “When they came on the eighth day to circumcise the child, they were going to call him Zechariah after his father” (v. 59).

— “So they made signs, asking his father what he wished him to be called” (v. 62).

— “Then Zechariah his father, filled with the holy Spirit, prophesied …” (v. 67).

— “… to show mercy to our fathers and to be mindful of his holy covenant and of the oath he swore to Abraham our father” (vv. 72-73).

All of these verses, of course, are inspired text, with God as its primary author.

Besides, God commands that we show respect to our parents. What would we call the man who helped bring us into the world? “This guy who’s married to my mom”? That would hardly be a way to honor the Fourth Commandment.

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Six Days in Silence for the Soul

In our busy world, everyone looks forward to getting away for a week, but not often the way Mary Jo Kenny from Chicago is. This summer she is going on her first six-day Spiritual Exercises, a silent retreat run by the Regnum Christi Movement, which will be held July 24-29, 2018 at the Cardinal Strich House in Chicago.

Mary Jo, a Regnum Christi member, wife, and mother who has been attending annual three-day retreats for a long time, shares, “I am really looking forward to more silence, more immersion in God, and hopefully learning better how he speaks in my soul in prayer. I seem to leave three-day retreats wishing they were longer.” Even Mary Jo, who is serious about her spiritual life and developing a deep relationship with God, admits that while she is really looking forward to the six days of silence and prayer, “the prospect is a little scary – you know, the fears ‘will I be able to really open my soul?’ and ‘what will God ask of me?’”

What are the Spiritual Exercises?

Six days in silence

The traditional Spiritual Exercises of St. Ignatius are a silent retreat meant to go through four weeks, or more correctly, four stages which may each take about a week to explore. Each stage focusses on different mysteries of Christ. The popular three-day version gives a taste of each of the mysteries, while the six-day retreat offers the chance to go deeper into dialogue with God through each one.

The stages are:

Week One: A time of reflection on one’s life in the light of God’s limitless love for us. The retreatant sees and understands how their response to that love has been wounded by sin, they acknowledge the ways sin has affected their own relationship with God and repent of it and resolve to follow him with a renewed intention.

Week Two: The meditations and prayers of the second week teach participants how to follow Christ as apostles. They reflect on the mysteries of his life, preaching and ministry. Through this reflection, they allow God to lead them in changing their lives so that they love him more intimately and see how they can join him concretely in his evangelizing mission.

Week Three: Retreatants meditate on Christ’s Last Supper, passion, and death. Accompanying the Lord intimately in his suffering and in the gift of the Eucharist, they experience this ultimate expression of God’s love more deeply in their hearts and minds.

Week Four: Meditating on Jesus’ resurrection and his apparitions to his disciples, they experience themselves how Christ walks with them, and they set out to love and serve him in concrete ways in the world around them.

Following the tradition of Ignatian prayer, retreatants do not only meditate on these mysteries, they contemplate and discern. Contemplation, as St. Ignatius encouraged it, is more a movement of the heart than of the intellect. It is using the heart, imagination and emotions that God gives human beings to allow him to touch us deeply. Contemplation allows truths, that our mind believes to become realities, that our hearts and souls live and experience first-hand.

Discernment, or discernment of spirits as St. Ignatius called it, is a prayerful process of noticing the interior movements of our hearts and understanding where they come from and where they are leading us. These include our thoughts, imagination, emotions, desires, feelings, repulsions and attractions. By understanding this better, retreatants learn to listen to the voice of God in their lives and make decisions to act based on his will.

The silent retreat format unites the Church’s spiritual traditions like daily Mass, confession, adoration, the Liturgy of the Hours, the rosary, and the Stations of the Cross, with extended times of personal silent prayer. Each retreatant also meets one-on-one daily with the retreat director, a priest, who will guide them through the Spiritual Exercises, help them in the discernment of spirits, and provide personalized material for meditation.

The spiritual exercises are not simply a relaxed time of passively listening to talks and reading, but they require the active participation of the retreatant who applies their mind, will, memory, imagination, and whole heart to seeking Christ.

The priest’s perspective

Six days in silenceFr. Brett Taira, LC, who will be the retreat master in Chicago this summer, explains that for many people who are very familiar with the mysteries of Christ’s life and have an established life of prayer, only having three days to touch on all of them is not enough. They may feel they need more time and more silence to go deeper and unravel the mysteries of Christ that they only had time to touch on before. He gives an analogy, “If you only had three days to visit Rome, you would still be able to go everywhere and see all of the important places, but you wouldn’t have a lot of time to stay in any one spot for long or understand it very deeply. If you had a week, you would see more and your experience would be different, spending more time in the places that resonated more with you. That is essentially the difference between the three-day and six-day spiritual exercises, too.” However, Fr. Brett cautioned that the retreat is not a vacation. Being able to spend more time going deep into the mysteries of Christ’s love also means spending more time being uncomfortable in the mysteries of sin and the crucifixion.

The experience helps people see the mysteries of Christ in their own life, and understand more clearly how Christ is working in their souls. Daily spiritual direction with a priest is a part of that discernment. The hope is that after leaving the retreat, people have learned to see the mysteries of Christ that God makes present in their lives and how to live them by applying the discernment they used during the spiritual exercises.

Six days in silenceFr. Louis de Vaugelas, LC, who preaches the six-day Spiritual Exercises in the Ohio Valley, explains how the longer retreat is different than the three-day spiritual exercises which Regnum Christi runs over 100 of in various cities around the country every year. “You put yourself in special circumstances that give more space to the Creator to speak to your heart. You allow him to deal with you in a very unique way, investing your time in what he wants to do. After a few days, entering more deeply in the silence, your interior heart becomes more receptive to the voice of the Lord, and his voice becomes what you want to listen to. The silence is no longer uncomfortable, but a way to hear God’s voice.”

Even as a preacher, Fr. Louis finds the experience transformative, “In the two years that I have preached six-day retreats, I felt deeply evangelized by what the Lord is doing in each one of the participants and I felt that that the Lord uses them to teach me ‘the way of the heart’ in dealing with Jesus. He asks them what they are looking for, the way he asks Mary Magdalene at the tomb. He brings them to see the desires that are being shown through their emotions. Through their emotions, he reveals himself to them in a way that, like Mary Magdalene became the apostle to the apostles, those participants become apostles to me, allowing me to see the resurrected Christ in a way that is very transforming for me.”

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“Ask a Priest: Is There Reincarnation?”

Q: What is the Catholic Church’s stance/teaching on past lives and reincarnation? I’m a recent Catholic, although I’m 41. I saw an article today on Catholic Online that concerns me. – R.D.

Answered by Fr. Edward McIlmail, LC

A. The short answer is, there is no reincarnation. The Catechism in No. 1013 says:

Death is the end of man’s earthly pilgrimage, of the time of grace and mercy which God offers him so as to work out his earthly life in keeping with the divine plan, and to decide his ultimate destiny. When ‘the single course of our earthly life’ is completed, we shall not return to other earthly lives: ‘It is appointed for men to die once.’ There is no ‘reincarnation’ after death.”

That article you cited, about a person who reported a death experience, is a different kind of thing. Perhaps God grants certain people the grace of a glimpse of the beyond. I say “glimpse” because if a soul really saw God, the soul would be so overwhelmed that it wouldn’t come back to this world.

There are, of course, precedents for coming-back-to-life experiences in the Gospel. Jesus raised people from the dead. But what they experienced before being brought back to life is a mystery.

Suffice it to say, though, these are not cases of reincarnation. Reincarnation holds that people die and then return to the world in some other form or other body. The back-from-death cases in the Gospels, in contrast, deal with continuity in the existence of individual persons.

The upshot: Make the most of your life. You only get one in this world, and then you go to Our Lord and give an account for how you lived it.

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“Ask a Priest: Will I Lose My Soul for Listening to AC/DC?”

Q: Last year, I went through a phase were I really opened up and became a better Christian. And it worked! But I let my anxiety take it too far, to the point where I wasn’t living my life. Now, as a result of that, I find it hard to pray, and I’m having trouble finding that even balance between sinning and living a godly life. I want to make the best out of my life while I’m here, and it’s difficult, because one of my biggest anxiety problems is hell. I don’t want to go there. If I swear, will I go to hell for eternity? If I make an inappropriate joke, will I go there for eternity? Also, music is a big concern for me. My favorite band is AC/DC. They’ve inspired me to start learning to play electric guitar. I know their songs are about sex, being a rebel, and even hell sometimes. But you’re not supposed to take them seriously. They’re a band simply here to have a good fun time. But when I listen to songs like “Highway to Hell” and “Hells Bells,” I have my anxiety worries. Will I go to hell for listening to them, even if I don’t let the lyrics get to me? All these questions are building up in me. I need guidance. –T.R.

Answered by Fr. Edward McIlmail, LC

A: It is good that you are trying to be a better Christian. To be a saint is the best way to go through life. That is how you give glory to God and find happiness.

Now, having a healthy fear of hell is good. We are in a spiritual battle, after all, and the stakes are enormous. But you don’t want to focus just on hell.

Christianity is about Christ, who is the full revelation of God. He wants us to be his followers, which means we need to make time for prayer, the sacraments, and acts of charity.

Christianity is about love more than about fear. In that sense it is better to focus on how to bring the love of Jesus to others each day. If you do that, then you are more likely to tame your faults and to put your energies into something positive.

Some practical things could help. Make frequent use of the sacraments. Try to read the Gospel every day. Get to know Christ, your best friend. Consider doing an online retreat occasionally, at RC Spirituality.

Then, ask yourself what God wants you to do with your life. Does he want you to be more respectful of others? More generous? What kind of music would he want you to listen to? Lyrics and hard beats can, after all, have a deep impact on the psyche. Instead of asking yourself if listening to a certain type of music will end up sending you to hell, why not ask yourself how listening to this or that type of music will affect your relationship with God? Will it help you be a wiser, stronger, more merciful person? Will it help your heart stay close to God and get to know him better? That type of reflection could be helpful. After all, to use another comparison, eating potato chips every once in a while won’t ruin your health, but only eating potato chips all the time certainly will.

You might also want to look for a regular confessor or spiritual director who could guide you.

If you focus on these kinds of things, you won’t be overly concerned about hell. Because your energies will be steadily geared toward moving in another direction.

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Alex Kucera

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Alex Kucera has lived in Atlanta, GA, for the last 46 years. He is one of 9 children, married to his wife Karmen, and has 3 girls, one grandson, and a granddaughter on the way. Alex joined Regnum Christi in 2007. Out of the gate, he joined the Helping Hands Medical Missions apostolate and is still participating today with the Ghana Friendship Mission.

In 2009, Alex was asked to be the Atlanta RC Renewal Coordinator for the Atlanta Locality to help the RC members with the RC renewal process. Alex became a Group Leader in 2012 for four of the Atlanta Men’s Section Teams and continues today. Running in parallel, in 2013, Alex became a Team Leader and shepherded a large team of good men.

Alex was honored to be the Atlanta Mission Coordinator between 2010 to 2022 (12 years), coordinating 5-8 Holy Week Mission teams across Georgia. He also created and coordinated missions at a parish in Athens, GA, for 9 years. Alex continues to coordinate Holy Week Missions, Advent Missions, and Monthly missions at Good Shepherd Catholic Church in Cumming, GA.

From 2016 to 2022, Alex also served as the Men’s Section Assistant in Atlanta. He loved working with the Men’s Section Director, the Legionaries, Consecrated, and Women’s Section leadership teams.

Alex is exceptionally grateful to the Legionaries, Consecrated, and many RC members who he’s journeyed shoulder to shoulder, growing his relationship with Christ and others along the way. He knows that there is only one way, that’s Christ’s Way, with others!