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“Ask a Priest: What If My Beau and I Are at a Standoff Over Religion?”

Q: I am 77 and Protestant. My friend is 82, a widower and a devout Catholic. We are discussing marriage, but from the beginning of our relationship of nearly two years, he states that we are not on the same page because I am not Catholic. He states we cannot move forward until I convert. I don’t have any problem attending his church. He won’t attend a Protestant church. I do not see any reason to convert. I don’t want to be forced into being a false Catholic just to please him. He is unwilling to open his mind to the Protestant church belief, stating that the Catholic religion is the only true one, and Martin Luther was wrong. I have suggested he talk to his priest but he delays. We have another issue in that he would prefer, after marriage, that I move into his home and accept it as his wife left it. I realize that he is still grieving even though he has opened his heart to me as has his family. It seems to me that our relationship cannot move forward in spite of the fact that we are good for each other and have no other issues. I would appreciate your comments. – R.

Answered by Fr. Edward McIlmail, LC

A: It’s good that you and your friend are open and honest with each other about your beliefs.

At your respective ages, you are understandably set in your ways, and it would likely take a miracle to change things. It is Our Lord who converts hearts, not potential spouses.

As you realize, there is no real value in faking a conversion to the Catholic faith. You should follow your conscience about what you profess, and let your friend know frankly why you don’t intend to convert.

From what you describe, I don’t see any reconciliation of differences coming anytime soon.

Perhaps you and your friend could commit to intensifying your prayer life. Ask the Holy Spirit for guidance. Then, give yourselves a deadline.

If, say, within six months or so neither of you budges on your core opinions, it might be better to break off the relationship. Perhaps you could agree to remain friends, nothing more.

That might help clear the air, without anyone feeling compromised. And there is something to be said about friendship. In this sense you and he can continue to benefit each other. Count on my prayers.

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“Ask a Priest: What to Do About an Atheist Brother?”

Q: I was taught growing up that believers go to heaven and non-believers go to hell. Religion was forced upon me and my siblings. My sister and I are Catholic, while my brother is a devout atheist. My mom and sister have tried to do everything in their power to bring him back to God. However, the more they try, the more he opposes religion. With the way things are going, it sounds like he’ll spend eternity in hell. Isn’t it cruel to spend eternity in heaven while your loved ones spend eternity suffering? — Rebecca

Answered by Fr. Edward McIlmail, LC

A: Religion shouldn’t be forced on anyone. Religion is about our relationship with a loving God who created us out of love and who wants our happiness and holiness.

As for your brother: It might be better if everyone eases off on the pressure. People don’t embrace the faith because of pressure.

Rather, what might help to win over your brother is a lot of charity and a lot of prayers and sacrifices. He needs a special grace from God to convert.

Conversion is something the Holy Spirit brings about; it’s not something that we can do. We can do our part, of course, through the prayers and sacrifices.

As for his eternity: God alone knows the heart and mind of each person. God might have his own timetable for bringing your brother around. So don’t get discouraged.

It would be good to prepare for the long haul, however. Conversions can take time; sometimes we won’t live to see them.

None of this should get us down, though. Remember, God loves your brother even more than you do. God is as interested in his conversion as you are.

If you want to pray to a special saint, you might pray to St. Monica. Her prayers helped win the conversion of her son Augustine, who became one of the Church’s greatest theologians.

And no, it’s not “cruel” to spend eternity in heaven if a loved one ends up in hell. Souls in hell are there by choice. What would be lamentable is if a person set on perdition causes someone else to lose heaven.

Rightly did Our Lord warn in Matthew 10:28, “Do not be afraid of those who kill the body but cannot kill the soul; rather, be afraid of the one who can destroy both soul and body in Gehenna.”

Count on my prayers.

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“Ask a Priest: Should I Pursue the Priesthood or Stay to Help My Girlfriend?”

Q: A couple of years ago when I met my girlfriend, an evangelical Christian, she started to question my Catholic faith and my understanding of it. Because of that, I had a number of questions about our doctrines and practices. I was on the brink of conversion to evangelicalism, but the Holy Spirit led me to study first my Catholic faith in an in-depth manner. By the grace of God, I learned so much about it that satisfied my intellect and eventually transcended to my spirituality. Now, it is I who is guiding my girlfriend toward the Church. I also decided that if she won’t try to learn the Church’s truths, it would be better for us to separate. Having said that, I have become the reason my girlfriend opened up herself in learning the Catholic faith despite her hesitations. I continue to guide her and be patient with her. However, I feel as though God is calling me to become a priest. I have this feeling ever since my high school years, but I have only understood it recently because of my satisfaction with the truths and the beauty of our Church. I am so ready to give up everything for the priesthood because I am deeply in love and certain that it is on the priestly life where I can give my all for the Church. I have shared this feeling with my girlfriend. She is truly upset and she told me that she won’t be open to learning the Catholic faith anymore because I am her only reason why she is taking that leap of faith to even study it. I am so torn about what should I do. If I give my everything to Jesus as a priest, I will surely lose the chance of guiding her to true salvation. I don’t know if I am called to serve God as a future priest, or just to serve God with her, as a future married couple, as she converts to Catholicism someday. How can I discern the right decision I should make? – J.P.

Answered by Fr. Edward McIlmail, LC

A: It’s great that you took the time to start studying the faith — and learned how great it is.

Perhaps helping your girlfriend to draw close to the faith has given you a taste of what the priesthood is about — bringing people nearer to the truth of Christ and the Church. This in turn might have revived your interest in the priesthood.

So how should you move forward? A few observations might help.

First, it would be good to speak with a priest directly, either a vocation director or seminary rector or your pastor or confessor. You need spiritual direction at this point.

Discernment about the priesthood very much involves the Church. So, it’s important to get feedback from someone in the Church.

Second, it might be good to step back a bit from your relationship with your girlfriend.

You mention that you are helping to bring your girlfriend closer to the faith. By comparison, if God is calling you to the priesthood, he might want you to bring hundreds, even thousands of souls closer to the Church and to Christ.

In any case, if your girlfriend is threatening to give up her pursuit of the faith because of your talk of the priesthood, then she probably doesn’t understand the faith well enough.

The Catholic faith is ultimately about her relationship with Christ. Our Lord should be the reason she enters the Church, not you.

If you sense that she is trying to pressure you to give up the idea of priesthood for her sake, be careful. God always reveals his will amid calm and serenity. You can be sure that the Holy Spirit isn’t working through your girlfriend’s threats.

Besides, if you really do have a vocation and follow it, that will be a powerful witness about the veracity of the Catholic faith for your friend. Your pursuit of the priesthood could actually help her embrace the faith someday. Don’t worry if you pursue the priesthood; God will look after your friend.

You seem to be assuming that if you stay with your girlfriend, she will convert. Perhaps she will. But, again, be careful. If you ignore God’s call to test your priestly vocation, could you rightly expect your friend to follow a divine call to enter the Church?

In the meantime, it would be good to intensify your prayer life and sacramental life. And it would be good to contact a vocation director or someone sooner rather than later.

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“Ask a Priest: Doesn’t God Want Us All to Be Converted?”

Q: Could you please shed some light on the following Gospel passage? “When [Jesus] was alone, the Twelve, together with the others who formed his company, asked what the parables meant. He told them, ‘The secret of the kingdom of God is given to you, but to those who are outside everything comes in parables, so that they may see and see again, but not perceive; may hear and hear again, but not understand; otherwise they might be converted and be forgiven.’” It appears as if some people are deliberately not meant to understand certain teachings, lest they convert and be saved! Yet this does not make sense — God wants to save us all. Another thing: why are some people more open/receptive to the truth or spiritual things, while others are not? If God wants all his children saved, shouldn’t he plant a seed of openness in us all? Life’s a mystery. – T.S.

Answered by Fr. Edward McIlmail, LC

A: It’s great that you thinking deeply about the Scriptures and making an effort to understand their true meaning.

That passage from Mark 4, like all biblical texts, needs to be read within the whole context of Scripture. Jesus goes on to explain things to his disciples. So why the difference between what he reveals to the masses and what he reveals to his close disciples?

One explanation (and there could be others) is that Jesus’ plan for our salvation involves the Church. And this includes its teaching authority, or magisterium, which rests with the pope and the bishops in communion with him.

In other words, Jesus doesn’t just explain everything clearly and fully to each person as an isolated individual. Rather, he also speaks to them through the mediation of the Church. He has worked like this from the start of the Church, for he sends out his disciples to preach the Gospel and to baptize and to “make disciples of all nations” (Matthew 28:19).

We learn about the Gospel through other humans, and we need the help of the Church to interpret Scripture correctly. This is one reason why we need to stay united to the Church.

Some people think that each person on his own can read and understand Scripture accurately. But experience doesn’t bear that out. Left to their own devices, people can come up with all kinds of strange and varied interpretations of Scripture. The magisterium helps us to avoid faulty interpretations.

Now, that part in the Gospel about Jesus not wanting people to convert is a bit of hyperbole. His quote, an allusion to Isaiah 6:9, is like that of an exasperated parent who tells a rebellious 16-year-old son, “Sure, go ahead, drop out of school and join a rock band! See how happy you are in five years!”

Obviously, the parent isn’t encouraging the son to give up on education. Rather, the parent is challenging him to think through the consequences of not finishing high school.

Likewise, Jesus is warning that people who don’t make an effort to understand his message risk losing salvation, and that the disciples have a serious duty to explain the fullness of what Our Lord wants to reveal. (A helpful resource to help you understand the more difficult passages in the Gospels is The Better Part.)

Why does God give people different levels of receptivity? The Almighty dispenses graces as he wills, and he seems to have favorites. This is apparent even in the Old Testament, which revolves around the history of God’s chosen [read: favored] people.

Hierarchy is a part of God’s creation. Hierarchy is there among the angels (some are archangels), among creatures in the visible world (some are microbes, some are animals, some are human beings), and among humans in the amount of grace they seem to get.

The most graced among human persons is the Blessed Virgin Mary. The rest of us are much lower down the ladder.

But this doesn’t mean that some of us have little value in God’s view. Suffice it to say that God “wills everyone to be saved and to come to knowledge of the truth” (1 Timothy 2:4). So we all get the necessary “seed of openness.”

Yet, Jesus cautions us, “To anyone who has, more will be given and he will grow rich; from anyone who has not, even what he has will be taken away” (Matthew 13:12). It’s a reminder that whether we are given a little or a lot of grace, we can attain heaven if we say yes to God.

We see a similar dynamic in other areas. Let’s take the field of medicine.

Let’s imagine Joe. Joe never had the skill or interest to study medicine. Yet other people have had the right talents, and used them to produce wonder drugs and treatments.

Joe can benefit from those wonder drugs and treatments, but only if he goes to his doctor and follows the doctor’s advice. Joe’s limited knowledge of medicine doesn’t bar him from taking advantage of the fruits of medical research. But if Joe is lazy or indifferent about his health, he will suffer the consequences. What little he has been given will be taken from him.

We can see the same dynamic in the spiritual realm.

There are simple people who have a deep faith, in part because they make time for prayer and Mass and the sacraments. Others, however, might have little or no faith, in part because they have chosen to squander their time and energy on frivolous things and paid little heed to the things of God.

At the last judgment we will find out how everyone used the graces that God bestowed on each one. Then, we will witness God’s great mercy as well as his justice and how they all fit in the hierarchy of his plans.

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“Ask a Priest: What If My Fiancée and I Butt Heads Over Religion?”

Q: I have a Protestant fiancée, and we always butt heads over my Catholic beliefs. She does not believe in praying the rosary or to the Virgin Mary or to the saints. She claims we only have to pray to Jesus Christ. She doesn’t believe in confessing to a priest — she claims it’s non-biblical. What’s your opinion? – A.S.

Answered by Fr. Edward McIlmail, LC

A: It’s good that these differences over religion are coming to the surface now.

The Church doesn’t encourage mixed marriages, precisely because of the tensions that can arise. Once the romantic feelings fade (and they will), the religious differences between spouses can come to the fore and cause a lot of friction. Frankly, on many issues there isn’t much room for compromise.

It’s worth quoting from the Catechism here:

1633 In many countries the situation of a mixed marriage (marriage between a Catholic and a baptized non-Catholic) often arises. It requires particular attention on the part of couples and their pastors.…

1634 Difference of confession between the spouses does not constitute an insurmountable obstacle for marriage, when they succeed in placing in common what they have received from their respective communities, and learn from each other the way in which each lives in fidelity to Christ. But the difficulties of mixed marriages must not be underestimated. They arise from the fact that the separation of Christians has not yet been overcome. The spouses risk experiencing the tragedy of Christian disunity even in the heart of their own home. …

1635 According to the law in force in the Latin Church, a mixed marriage needs for liceity the express permission of ecclesiastical authority. … This permission […] presupposes that both parties know and do not exclude the essential ends and properties of marriage; and furthermore that the Catholic party confirms the obligations, which have been made known to the non-Catholic party, of preserving his or her own faith and ensuring the baptism and education of the children in the Catholic Church. [end quoted material]

Note that in order to get permission to marry a non-Catholic, you would need to promise to raise your children in the Catholic faith. Your fiancée would need to be informed of this.

The basic problem in regard to the topics you mentioned is that some Protestants believe in sola Scriptura, Scripture alone. If something isn’t explicitly mentioned in the Bible, they might reject it.

Catholicism, by comparison, relies on both Scripture and Tradition for its teachings. Tradition (with a capital T) is the oral transmission of the teachings of Christ and the apostles.

In the light of Tradition (as well as biblical passages) the Church recognizes that prayers to Mary and the saints are fine. It is firmly in line with the mediation that runs throughout salvation history.

The Israelites, for instance, had no problem asking Moses to intercede for them with God. And St. Paul urged, “I ask that supplications, prayers, petitions, and thanksgivings be offered for everyone, for kings and for all in authority” (1 Timothy 2:1-2).

If Moses interceded for the Israelites, and Paul urged the faithful to pray [read: intercede] for civil leaders, there is no problem in our asking for the intercession of Mary and the saints.

As for confession: Jesus explicitly gives the apostles the power to forgiven sins. “Whose sins you forgive are forgiven them, and whose sins you retain are retained” (John 20:23). And notice the reaction after Jesus’ healing and forgiveness of the sins of the paralytic: “When the crowds saw this they were struck with awe and glorified God who had given such authority to human beings” (Matthew 9:8). Note the plural: to human beings, not just to one man.

The more immediate issue is that you are starting to experience the effects of religious differences with your friend.

You might want to ask yourself whether this situation would improve after the wedding day.

And how would your friend’s religious views affect your children? What will they think if Dad is teaching them to pray the rosary and Mom is telling them that it’s useless (or worse) to pray to Mary? And that could be just the start of the problems.

This might be a good moment to step back and pray deeply about what this marriage would look like, two or five or 10 years down the line. This might be a good moment for a heart-to-heart talk with your fiancée … and see whether there is real compatibility here.

Again, the romantic feelings you might have now will fade with time. The religious differences might not fade so quickly, if ever.

In this era when the wider culture isn’t very supportive of marriage and children, you want to be sure that you and a future spouse are on the same page as much as possible about the deep issues.

To help your fiancée understand the Catholic view of marriage, you might want to recommend our Three Hearts: A Retreat Guide on the Sacrament of Marriage.

You might want to intensify your prayers for your fiancée, including her conversion with God’s grace.

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“Ask a Priest: I’m Falling Back Into Sin. What Should I Do?”

Q: I am 21 years old and have been Catholic for three years now. Before my conversion, because of my ignorance, I lived very sinfully and impurely. After my conversion it was amazing. My mind was enlightened by truth, and I lived totally different and was truly converted. Now, I am worried because for the past 10 months or so I have turned back to my old ways and worse. I hate my sins, I am depressed, I don’t think highly of myself, and I feel like my heart is hardened. I am honestly worried that I’m doomed. I am worried that God pulled me out of a habitually sinful life, and because I turned right back to it, he’s given up on me. I’ve honestly been in a very dark place lately because of this. Any thoughts? — D.

Answered by Fr. Edward McIlmail, LC

A: What you are experiencing isn’t totally unusual. Bad habits can leave deep footprints in our psyches and hearts.

So it isn’t unusual to be tempted by the same old sins. Conversion is a process, not a once-and-done event.

The joy you felt after your conversion was a consolation that Our Lord allowed in your life, to help you on the right path.

Now, however, you are back to day-to-day life and finding that the battle is not over.

The important thing is not to get discouraged with your falls. On the other hand, it is crucial that you confront the fact that life is a battle. We battle ourselves, we battle the lures of the world, we battle the snares of the devil. The spiritual life demands constant vigilance.

At the very least, you want to take advantage of the sacrament of confession as much as possible. And you need not wait till you fall into a mortal sin. The sacrament carries a grace, and frequent confession can help us avoid mortal sin in the first place.

Also useful would be to make a plan for your spiritual life.

Basically, this means coming up with a program of life for 1) how you will fight your vices, and 2) how you will develop the virtues. The second point is crucial, since it would give you something positive to aim for.

A common mistake in the spiritual life is that people only focus on the things they know they need to stop doing, but they neglect working on the things they should be doing. That can leave a risky void. Remember the parable of the unclean spirit who returns with a vengeance (Matthew 12:43-45).

To remember all the things you can be doing positively, you might want to view, listen to, or read this Retreat Guide — The Complete Christian: A Retreat Guide on the Calling of the Twelve Apostles.

To come up with a program of life, you first need to identify your root sin. For more reading, see https://www.spiritualdirection.com/2010/04/26/how-can-i-identify-my-root-sin.

Then, you want to compile a specific plan to follow. For more reading, see https://www.spiritualdirection.com/topics/spiritual-direction/rule-of-life-program-of-life.

A further help would be to have someone to guide you. This could be either a regular confessor or some other priest or a spiritual director. The director could be a layperson with the proper training. In the meantime, I can recommend the book Navigating the Interior Life, by Daniel Burke and Father John Bartunek. It even gives advice about finding a spiritual director.

Whatever you do, avoid any sense of discouragement. Our Lord doesn’t give up on us, though we might be tempted to give us on ourselves. Recognize that for what it is, a temptation from which to flee.

So when you feel discouragement creeping up on you, turn to the Lord in prayer, knowing that he never gets tired of forgiving us, and he is never surprised by our constant need for his grace.

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“Ask a Priest: How Can I Help a Pair of Gay Friends?”

Q: I became Catholic when I was in undergrad, but before my conversion I met Joyce, who instantly became like an “adopted” mother to me. She was there for me in a time when I was separated from my family, and she and her partner became my “adopted” moms and I love them dearly. Over the past year my life has completely changed, and my relationship with God has grown immensely. Now I am on the discernment path of becoming a religious sister or a consecrated woman. Recently Joyce had a serious medical crisis, and it started to hit me about her and her partner living in sin as Catholics. What am I expected to say to them? Is it enough to love them and pray to God that God can transform their hearts and minds? If the answer is for me to share the concern, I am terrified of losing them because they have been such an important part of my life and really are “adopted” moms. I don’t know what to do. But I want to be living my life true to the Catholic Church and its teachings. Any thoughts you could share would be greatly appreciated. – C.

Answered by Fr. Edward McIlmail, LC

A: It is good to hear that your relationship with God has grown immensely.

You mention that Joyce and her partner helped you at a critical time of your time. Maybe now is the time when you can return the favor.

Obviously, you understand that their relationship is not within God’s plans. So it would be important not to give the impression that you support their lifestyle. You can love them as people without acquiescing to their domestic situation.

So where do you draw the line — should you dine with them? go on an afternoon outing with them? These decisions aren’t so easy.

Certainly, you would need to intensify your prayers for them and to ask the Holy Spirit for guidance.

You might try to consider whether one or the other is open to the Church’s teaching in the area of sexuality.

It might help to do some background reading first.

Two suggested books would be: Homosexuality and the Catholic Church and A Parent’s Guide to Preventing Homosexuality. While geared toward a specific audience, the latter book can give you insights into the roots of same-sex attraction. Also helpful could be a video “The Third Way.”

It is good to remember that when we truly love someone, we want the best for them.

Helping people to draw closer to Christ and to live the Gospel is a key way we show our love. So anything you can do to help Joyce and her friend move toward a chaste life would be a true act of charity.

In the short run you might want to see if there is anything you should change in your own behavior.

For instance, if you visit them frequently and eat with them, what kind of message are you sending? Do they interpret your visits as your way of reaffirming them in their lifestyle? Or do they understand your reservations?

If you want to broach the subject of the moral dimension of their relationship, but don’t feel comfortable doing it with both of them at the same time, you might consider a private meeting with Joyce first, to discuss your concerns.

You could remind her of your love for her and your gratitude for her support. You might share how your relationship with her helped you a lot. Perhaps some of this will help set the stage for the tougher topic you want to address.

And addressing it might be easier than you think. It could be as simple as asking the two of them how they, as Catholics, reconcile their homosexual lifestyle with the teachings of Jesus.

Sincerely asking that question and sincerely listening to their answer could be a fruitful step forward. You don’t have to “solve” everything right away.

For them to be open to hear what you want to say about it, they need to know that you are sincerely open to hear what they have to say — that you really care about them and respect them. Similarly, we can still be friends with people who are Hindu, even though we neither share nor endorse their religious beliefs.

Likewise, a friendship like the one you describe can — at least in theory — endure some strong disagreements. The important thing is for you to be able to be honest, and for you to understand why it is that their lifestyle choice is, in the end, not good for them.

Again, intensify your prayer in the meantime. Offer up Masses and rosaries, so that the Holy Spirit will open the hearts of Joyce and her friend.

And be prepared — your message might not be well-received. If it isn’t, keep calm. Give Joyce a chance to tell her side of things.

People in same-sex relationship often struggle with childhood memories of rejection (or perceptions of rejection) or even abuse. So it is crucial that Joyce senses that you are motivated by love and not by judgmentalism.

One other suggestion: Be sure that you are networking with faithful Catholics. It is easier to live the faith within a community of believers. This is especially important if you are considering a life of consecration.

I hope some of this helps. Count on my prayers for you and your friends.

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New Book Shares the Adventures of the Missionary of Wall Street

Sometimes you come across people with stories so compelling you wish you could sit down with them for an afternoon and just listen to them relate their adventures. Steve and Evelyn Auth are good examples.  He is an energetic Wall Street investor with a wry smile, and she is a warm and engaging prayer warrior who speaks softly and in a way that makes people pause to listen. You know there is something unique about this couple just by meeting them.

What am I, a chief investment officer of one of the country’s largest investment managers, doing hailing down strangers at night on the streets of New York City? “Are you Catholic?” my friends and I ask… -from The Missionary of Wall Street

Steve is indeed the Executive Vice President and a chief investment officer with Federated Global Equities. He earned his undergraduate degree at Princeton University, where he graduated summa cum laude, and his graduate degree at Harvard Business School, where he was a Baker Scholar. As a leading investor and financial analyst,  Steve is a frequent guest on CNBC, Fox Business News, and Bloomberg TV, but in his new book, The Missionary of Wall Street, published by Sophia Institute Press, Steve ventures out of his investment wheelhouse and shares an entirely different side of himself.

You can almost hear Steve’s New York accent and the hint of humor in his voice as he relates not only his story, but stories of some of the estimated 2.5 million New Yorkers that he, Evelyn, and a band of street missionaries have encountered over the last 10 years around Prince & Mott in SoHo.  Of those 2.5 million, over 10,000 people have come to confession during the missions, many for the first time since their first communion.  Many thousands more have been accompanied by street missionaries into a church to pray or light a candle.

The book shares the true and remarkable stories of the miracles that happen on the street when Catholics become missionaries in the city that is the epicenter of secular culture. They base their evangelization outreach at Old St. Patrick’s in SoHo, led by the inspiration of Monsignor Donald Sakano, the pastor.  Their primary goal is to engage fallen away Catholics and accompany them in taking their first steps back into the Church. Stationed on neighborhood street corners, they greet passers-by with a warm smile and the question, “Are you Catholic?”  The answer to that question (or more often the lack of an answer) determines what happens next. Steve estimates that for every person who says yes and stops to speak with a missionary there are about 40 who just ignore them or respond with a quick negative.

The harsh reality is that, for every successful encounter on the streets of SoHo, our missionaries are rejected or ignored or yelled at by a minimum of twenty passers-by, an average of forty, and on some nights eighty or a hundred.

On top of our own natural human reactions to that abuse in the streets, add the role of the devil. Rest assured, the devil is not happy about our new evangelization. Most of the souls we encounter are on some level of his slippery slope—some are near the bottom, convinced they’re lost, or even no longer aware of eternity and their impending lost future….Most are practicing a reasonably sophisticated form of rationalization, convincing themselves that, for some reason or another, their behavior is morally acceptable….

Before we head to the streets, I stop in the church to pray, maybe even do a daily confession. I put myself in the hands of the Holy Spirit and ask Him to carry me through. When I do this sincerely and with deep faith, I always find I have joyful, confident perseverance through the long night of darkness.

Once you have the habit of joyful perseverance, you’ll keep going even when everything seems to be working against you. Even the weather.

Then success will sneak up on you and surprise you.

In today’s world of me first, love—true love—is in short supply. Lost souls hunger for love. And when they sense true love in a missionary’s spirit on the street, inevitably they’re drawn in. -from The Missionary of Wall Street

Sometimes God uses the missionaries to reach people outside of the Catholic faith as well, like Khalid, whose story Steve relates in the book:

Prince and Mott, SoHo.
Tuesday of Holy Week, 2017

It’s a beautiful, joyful evening in SoHo. It appears summer has come two months early. The afternoon sun is shining warmly in our faces, and joy is in the air.

Then Khalid, a Muslim from Morocco, walks by.

“You Christians all want to kill us!” he tells one of our missionaries.

A heated discussion follows. We have lots in common. Abraham, the father of both faiths. God, who inspired Mohammed, is the same God we worship. Jesus is at least a great prophet in a Muslim context.

“But the world is going to hell! Too many of you are trying to get us!” Actually, he uses some much more colorful language, but I’m not going to repeat it.

“Khalid, can you stop using those kinds of words out here on the street? You’re bigger than this. You’re a child of God. Come on!”

Khalid is still hostile; and the language is no less colorful. “Khalid, you’re trying to rile me up, but it’s not going to work. I love you too much. You’re my brother. Love will always conquer hate.”

“No way!”

“Khalid, I want you to go into the church to light a candle before God, and to pray for me. Can you do this for me?”

It takes some talking and a lot of Christian love, but somehow, someway (the Holy Spirit, perhaps?), Khalid finds the strength to head into a church for the first time in his life.”

 

Steve has a compelling story of his own as a cradle Catholic who had a dramatic “re-version” almost 20 years ago. He is a Regnum Christi member, and a national board member of the Lumen Institute. He makes it clear that the cause of the missions’ success, and of each individual conversion he has witnessed, is not him, but Jesus Christ who calls the missionaries out into the streets and lets them actively witness what he is doing in the lives of the passers-by that they engage. The Missionary of Wall Street invites the reader out of the holy huddle and on to the cold and tough street corners of New York.  You get the sense that as he tells these stories, each more improbable and transformative than the last, Steve is just as amazed as the reader is.

 

These inspiring tales of Steve Auth’s faithful band of Catholic missionaries working the street corners of New York City reads like a 21st-century version of the Acts of the Apostles.”

Jim Towey
President – Ave Maria University

 

Woven among the stories is another key component of the book. Pausing from his narrative every now and then, Steve speaks directly to the reader as a would-be missionary, giving tips on how to engage in street evangelization effectively.  In an experienced but accessible way, he shares the key elements of running a street mission, essential strategies, and some do’s and don’ts that he has learned over the years. Having touched millions of passers-by in New York over the last decade as the missionary of Wall Street, Steve may very well touch millions more through those who read this book and are inspired to step out and become missionaries themselves.

The Missionary of Wall Street is available in paperback and e-book from Sophia Institute Press.

For a taste of what you’ll find in the book, watch a recent talk Steve gave at an Atlanta Regnum Christi Convention below.

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On the Leading Edge with Katie Lundstrom 

Where does a person go to get great leadership and management skills?  The places that come to mind are Harvard, Yale, University of Chicago, Stanford, and maybe a couple Big Ten universities.

Most people would not say “The Catholic Church.” Yet, from the parish level to the Vatican, leadership and management skills are essential for the Church to be successful.  And that also is true for religious congregations like the Legionaries of Christi – and lay movements like Regnum Christi.

Fortunately for our Movement, we have an apostle who knows a bit about leadership and management and is willing to share what she knows.

She is Katie Lundstrom, President and CEO of Firm Foundations – and active member of the DC women’s section.

Katie has worked for more than 25 years to help individuals and organizations transform into high performing industry leaders. She has experience in both public and private sectors, specializing in strategic planning, executive and team coaching, and performance management. Katie Lundstrom has worked closely with senior executives in many industries including the government professional services, non-profits, utilities, telecommunications, transportation, and healthcare.

In 2011, she started Firm Foundations as a way to focus in on her true passion – helping others achieve their full leadership potential. She started the company after seven days of spiritual exercises where she received a clarion call to start it – despite much fear and trepidation to go “out on my own”.

Firm Foundations specializes in multiple areas of expertise: strategic planning, change management, stakeholder engagement, strategic facilitation, executive and leadership coaching, and performance management.

As the leader of FFI, Katie works closely with every client, tailoring her approach to meet their needs and facilitating personal and professional transformation to achieve outstanding results. She has developed a team of partners and experts, who support and contribute to her mission of leadership development, building a firm foundation for success. She is known by FFI’s clients for “bringing out the best in everyone”.

That is something she is trying to do in Regnum Christi. For the Movement, she is something of a triple option.

First, she works close with the Mission Support Team. This is the group of professionals (both lay and religious) who manage the day-to-day operations of the Movement at the Territorial level. Members of the team have varied backgrounds, some with business experience.

But like most people who join Regnum Christi, their reasons for being part of the Movement are more spiritual than practical. As part of the support team, the leadership and management skills Katie is teaching are key to the proper stewardship of the time, talent, and treasure people bring to the Movement.

And she occasionally works with other groups in the Movement. She recently did a three-day leadership seminar in Germany with leaders of the Legionaries, Consecrated Women, and Laity of the European Territory, as well as a workshop with the Young Adults in Vienna, Austria.

Second, Katie is a key member of the teaching team for Catholic Worldview Fellowship. CWF is a unique combination: courses, workshops, personal coaching, leadership training, prayer, and travel. The 30-day program includes time in Germany and Rome. Don’t be surprised if some of the most effective leaders in the future of the Church are past participants.

Third, she has just been appointed the local RC director for the Washington locality. With this on top of everything else, you have to wonder how she got so involved. In light of her personal history, her passion for Catholic apostolate today might be a bit of a surprise.

Katie grew up in Woodstock, Illinois, a small town northwest of Chicago that isn’t quite sure if it is a suburb or “downstate”.

Woodstock is pure Americana: farmer’s market, folk festival, historic town square, antique mall, and one of the oldest operating theaters in the country: Woodstock Opera House.

She graduated from Miami University (Ohio), worked for five years in Chicago, then went back to school and got her MBA from the University of North Carolina. Fifteen years into her consulting career, she received her coaching certification to be a personal coach for leaders, something that had become her professional passion.

As for her faith life, Katie was raised Lutheran and sampled several Protestant flavors during college and after. She admits she tended to follow what was trendy in faith circles. But she learned that God was preparing her for a big change.

By the early 2000s, she was living and working in Washington.  She got involved in the local Episcopal Parish.  In fact, she got so involved that she became a member of the parish council.

It was a controversial time for the Episcopal Church, which elected the first openly gay bishop, Gene Robinson, to a diocese in 2004.  The controversy was so great that it threatened a schism in the Worldwide Anglican Communion, of which the Episcopal Church in the United States is a member.

Katie had been part of several church communities but had never experienced up close and personal the pain of a schism.

And somewhere back in her mind, she realized how awful it was when schism tore the church apart.  And while it had happened long ago, for the first time, she experienced personally how much the Church must have suffered at the break away of Protestants.

Ironically, a friend was in the process of converting to Catholicism. The friend recommended that Katie read Rome Sweet Home by Scott & Kimberly Hahn. Katie got the book, starting reading, and finished it the same day.

It stuck so many cords, as did what she had heard about the church’s teaching on theology of the body. Katie signed up for RCIA and entered the Catholic Church in 2006.

That is supposed to be the part where everything turns out perfectly. But it wasn’t that easy.

Katie had been part of ACTIVE church communities in the past. She was enthralled by the TRUTH of the Catholic faith, but it seem to lack warmth. She says for the first couple years she really didn’t do much but show up for Mass and sit alone in the pew.

But in 2008 she went on spiritual exercises at Our Lady of Bethesda Retreat Center, She was welcomed and felt comfortable with the people she met.  Fr. John Hopkins, LC, got her involved in a Regnum Christi study circle.

In January, 2009, Katie became a member of Regnum Christi. She joined at the moment the Movement would enter its period of initial shock and eventual renewal as the scandal of the founder unfolded.

All that trauma didn’t affect Katie.  She was accompanied in her faith journey by the RC family in the Washington locality:

“The people were amazing…they all have hearts like I want to have.”

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Alex Kucera

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Alex Kucera has lived in Atlanta, GA, for the last 46 years. He is one of 9 children, married to his wife Karmen, and has 3 girls, one grandson, and a granddaughter on the way. Alex joined Regnum Christi in 2007. Out of the gate, he joined the Helping Hands Medical Missions apostolate and is still participating today with the Ghana Friendship Mission.

In 2009, Alex was asked to be the Atlanta RC Renewal Coordinator for the Atlanta Locality to help the RC members with the RC renewal process. Alex became a Group Leader in 2012 for four of the Atlanta Men’s Section Teams and continues today. Running in parallel, in 2013, Alex became a Team Leader and shepherded a large team of good men.

Alex was honored to be the Atlanta Mission Coordinator between 2010 to 2022 (12 years), coordinating 5-8 Holy Week Mission teams across Georgia. He also created and coordinated missions at a parish in Athens, GA, for 9 years. Alex continues to coordinate Holy Week Missions, Advent Missions, and Monthly missions at Good Shepherd Catholic Church in Cumming, GA.

From 2016 to 2022, Alex also served as the Men’s Section Assistant in Atlanta. He loved working with the Men’s Section Director, the Legionaries, Consecrated, and Women’s Section leadership teams.

Alex is exceptionally grateful to the Legionaries, Consecrated, and many RC members who he’s journeyed shoulder to shoulder, growing his relationship with Christ and others along the way. He knows that there is only one way, that’s Christ’s Way, with others!