June 29, 2018

Divine Mercy University Celebrates Graduation with Cabinet Member

On May 18, 2018, Divine Mercy University celebrated the graduation of 45 students at the National Basilica of the Immaculate Conception. The Keynote Speaker was Dr. Ben Carson, Secretary of Housing and Urban Development.

The ceremony began with a Mass presided over by Bishop Michael Burbidge of the Diocese of Arlington, Virginia.

Fr. Charles Sikorsky, LC, president of Divine Mercy University, preached the homily. He spoke of the parable of the vine and the branches, reminding the graduates to remain attached to Christ. “If we remain attached to the vine,” he said, “we can overcome all human limitations. Today’s Gospel gives us great reasons to trust in the Lord.”

Fr. Charles also told the story of a graduate whose psychological training now helps him serve patients in a hospital where 80-90% of those cared for have suffered some form of abuse. He left the graduates with two exhortations: “Never forget the why” and “Do everything with love.”

Dr. Ben Carson received an honorary doctorate. He began his speech by saying, “I’m greatly humbled by the dedication of this university to its mission, and by the commitment of graduates that embody that mission, seeking to ensure the moral resolve with which we should go forward in our professions to serve others in a Christian way.”

“I think God gives each of special talents,” Dr. Carson said, adding that discernment of his own talents helped him determine which branch of medicine he would go into. Addressing the graduates directly, he continued, “There’s something each one of you is better at than everyone else here. And one of the things that really leads to great success is recognizing what it is.”

The HUD secretary also addressed the needs of our culture, saying, “We have enormous challenges with mental illness in our country, and we need to be healers.”

Dr. Carson concluded, “You’re all going to have tremendous spheres of influence. Can you imagine how many people will be impacted by what you do, what you say, how you act?”

This year, Divine Mercy had 29 Master’s graduates in General Psychology, seven Master’s graduates Clinical Psychology, and nine Doctors of Psychology. These join others to make a total of 255 Master’s graduates and 60 Doctoral Graduates. The university hopes to add Master’s degree in Counseling next year.

Dr. Peter Martin, PsyD (class of 2009), received the distinguished alumnus award. Dr. Martin explained to the graduates, “You will learn more about your calling to heal than your academic training could have possibly equipped you [for] before today. Embrace the sometimes challenging years of transformation to come in your work with your clients, and grow in wisdom and virtue in the Lord as his faithful disciple.”

Afterwards, Fr. Charles described the ceremony as a “great event.” Commenting on a recent letter from the California Bishops seeking to reduce the stigma of mental illness and to take away the fear of coming forward, he noted, “Churches can play a major role in that.” He also explained, “Faith and science need to work together to heal a person; a holistic approach of body, mind and spirit is so important, and that’s what we’re working on at DMU.”

You can watch a video of the graduation on Facebook or YouTube, and you can see a collection of social media about the event on the DMU blog.

Divine Mercy University offers a 25-50% tuition reduction for Regnum Christi. Find details here.

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“Ask a Priest: Should I Ask My Boyfriend to Marry Me?”

Q: I am 19 and have been in a relationship for over a year with a boy I love and who has supported me through a lot of difficult times. We sinned and had sex before marriage. His parents are very religious (he and I not so much, though we both believe in God). Now, his parents won’t let us talk to each other. All I know is I love him and would want to spend the rest of my life with him. We discussed marriage and family before this all happened. I spoke to one priest and he said that I should marry this guy. I don’t know how my boyfriend feels and know his parents see what we did as a sin against God. I can’t ask him how he feels as he’s scared of getting into trouble. We love each other and know we have done wrong. Would it be a bit extreme to ask him to marry me? Would his parents as Christians agree? It’s a difficult situation, and I want to get another priest/reverend’s opinion. Thank you. – S.

Answered by Fr. Edward McIlmail, LC

A: Your e-mail points to some interesting factors in this situation. Permit me to make a few observations and suggestions.

First, it is good that you at least recognize that you sinned by having sex. Premarital sex is not a good preparation for marriage. It would be good to get to confession as soon as possible if you haven’t done so yet.

This is the moment when a young couple should be learning to relate to each other in a chaste way. For chastity is an extremely helpful ingredient in a solid marriage.

For there will be lots of times when a married couple cannot be intimate. What will they do then? They will have to live as celibates and show their love in other ways. This is a skill that is best learned before marriage, since it won’t get any easier to learn after the wedding day.

Also, chastity can give you and your friend the space you need to get to learn about each other as persons. This includes finding out the things that you disagree on. The problem with premarital sex — aside from the risk of unexpected pregnancy and the emotional wounds that can arise in the event of a breakup — is that it can become the focal point of the relationship. Other things take on secondary importance. This can rob you of the chance to develop a solid friendship and to confront and work out differences.

Second, you mention your friend’s parents and his being “scared of getting into trouble.” This sounds like something that might be expected of a work-in-progress adolescent, not of someone who is truly ready for marriage. If your friend is basing his decisions on fear of his parents, this might reason enough to pause and step back. Perhaps this relationship needs time to mature.

Third, the idea of asking the young man to marry you, rather than the other way around, seems a bit forced. This isn’t said out of any sense of chauvinism. It’s just that your friend needs to show more leadership. If he hasn’t “popped the question,” that could be a sign that he realizes he isn’t ready for marriage. It wouldn’t be surprising if his parents agree.

Fourth, the fact that his parents won’t let you talk to each other isn’t a healthy sign. The parents are certainly right to oppose the premarital sex. Yet it’s not ideal that they see a need to try to micromanage the relationship between you and your friend.

This romance might need time to develop (chastely). It is good to keep in mind, too, that there is only one perfect man you will ever find, and that is Jesus.

Your e-mail implies that you don’t share all the Christian beliefs about marriage and sex. You might want to delve deeper into this topic. The Catholic Church has lots of wisdom in this area.

For more reading see Mary Beth Bonacci’s Real Love and my colleague Father John Bartunek’s “Straight Talk About Dating” and his Retreat Guide on marriage.

You might want to take all this to prayer. Stay close to the Blessed Virgin Mary through the rosary. I hope some of this helps. Count on my prayers.

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Alex Kucera

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Alex Kucera has lived in Atlanta, GA, for the last 46 years. He is one of 9 children, married to his wife Karmen, and has 3 girls, one grandson, and a granddaughter on the way. Alex joined Regnum Christi in 2007. Out of the gate, he joined the Helping Hands Medical Missions apostolate and is still participating today with the Ghana Friendship Mission.

In 2009, Alex was asked to be the Atlanta RC Renewal Coordinator for the Atlanta Locality to help the RC members with the RC renewal process. Alex became a Group Leader in 2012 for four of the Atlanta Men’s Section Teams and continues today. Running in parallel, in 2013, Alex became a Team Leader and shepherded a large team of good men.

Alex was honored to be the Atlanta Mission Coordinator between 2010 to 2022 (12 years), coordinating 5-8 Holy Week Mission teams across Georgia. He also created and coordinated missions at a parish in Athens, GA, for 9 years. Alex continues to coordinate Holy Week Missions, Advent Missions, and Monthly missions at Good Shepherd Catholic Church in Cumming, GA.

From 2016 to 2022, Alex also served as the Men’s Section Assistant in Atlanta. He loved working with the Men’s Section Director, the Legionaries, Consecrated, and Women’s Section leadership teams.

Alex is exceptionally grateful to the Legionaries, Consecrated, and many RC members who he’s journeyed shoulder to shoulder, growing his relationship with Christ and others along the way. He knows that there is only one way, that’s Christ’s Way, with others!