May 4, 2018

Regnum Christi Spirituality Center Ask a Priest

“Ask a Priest: What If I’ve Had Prior Problems With Alcohol?”

Q:  In the past I have struggled with being moderate in my drinking, and many times slipped into drunkenness that lead to other sins. However, I have been working on this and don’t struggle as much as I used to. There have been a couple of occasions, though, where when I didn’t eat enough beforehand, or because of feeling anxious, I have accidentally had too much to drink and became fairly intoxicated (in one case it was only one glass of wine but because I had not eaten and wasn’t being careful, it affected me a lot). I know under some circumstances this would not be a mortal sin since it was an accident. But since I have struggled with drinking in the past, and should know to be more careful, I am wondering if that makes it a mortal sin in my case. I am also wondering if, because I do struggle with drinking, a “firm purpose of amendment” in confession would be to give up drinking completely, or just continuing to be as careful as possible. – C.

Answered by Fr. Edward McIlmail, LC

A: It isn’t easy to say when drinking crosses the line into mortal sin. Every person needs to know his limits in the use of alcohol.

Perhaps the inquiry about mortal sin is the wrong question to ask. Let me explain.

If you have had problems with alcohol in the past, and these have led to other sins, then it might be good to squarely face the reality that drinking poses grave risks for you. Ideally your response should be one of caution, not flirting with disaster.

Think of it this way. Imagine you are driving on a twisting mountain road, with no guardrails and with a steep cliff on one side. Do you ask yourself, “How close can I drive to the edge without plunging into the valley below?” One hopes not. Rather, you are more prone to think, “This is a dangerous road. I need to slow down and hug the center line.”

In the case of drinking you might consider slowing down. At the very least, it would be good to give yourself strict parameters. Unless you give up drinking altogether (not a bad option), at least consider a no-alcohol-without-food rule. And perhaps limit yourself to one drink, period. If any of this seems extreme, just remember what is at stake.

In the meantime you want to maintain a solid prayer life and sacramental life, and consider looking for positive social activities that don’t involve alcohol (such as museum visits, Bible studies, volunteer work, etc.).

So, rather than trying to avoid grievous sins with alcohol, it might be better to look for activities that don’t require any alcohol.

Keep learning more with Ask a Priest

Got a question? Need an answer?

Today’s secular world throws curve balls at us all the time. AskACatholicPriest is a Q&A feature that anyone can use. Just type in your question or send an email to [email protected] and you will get a personal response back from one of our priests at RCSpirituality. You can ask about anything – liturgy, prayer, moral questions, current events… Our goal is simply to provide a trustworthy forum for dependable Catholic guidance and information. So go ahead and ask your question…

“Ask a Priest: What If I’ve Had Prior Problems With Alcohol?” Read More »

29 and Excited to Be Regnum Christi

Maca Exérez is studying a master’s degree in educational support at the Francisco de Vitoria University in her hometown of Madrid, Spain at 29 years old. After years of contact with Regnum Christi, she felt the call to become part of it. She joined the Almagro section after Holy Week Missions. The following interview explains how she sees being part of the Regnum Christi family as a gift: 

Interviewer: Maca, when did you incorporate into Regnum Christi? 

Maca: Easter Monday of this year! 

How did you meet Regnum Christi? 

I would not be able to put a date on it since Regnum Christi is a well-known movement here. But, there have been several moments in recent years that have let me know it well. For example: listening to the testimony of a Legionary, attending a silent retreat in which someone “forgot” a Regnum Christi Member Handbook, which I decided to start reading, a Consecrated Woman who opened the door to RC to me, inviting me to a team and proposing an apostolate when I desired to learn more about Regnum Christi… 

And of all this, what made you want to be part of Regnum Christi? 

I suppose, at the beginning, I was interested in how the movement was forming young people, because we are the future. However, once I got to know it more deeply, I loved the depth and variety and ease of being able to include an apostolate in your day-to-day life. To this day, knowing the movement from within, I would highlight its charism and the formation that it offer us. On top of that all there are incredible people, who for me are an example, are what make me want to be part of it. 

So, what is Regnum Christi for you now? 

For me, Regnum Christi is an investment in the future for me, my family, my future family, my environment, and the people that I know in my day to day life. 

Do you have any special memories in relation to Regnum Christi? 

I guess I could tell you the last one… Even though I have a lot! 

I had been planning to join for several months, but since I am very social, no date would fit all the people who wanted to come to attend the incorporation ceremony.

However, on Easter Sunday, when it was 27° C [81° F], and we were putting suitcases onto a bus while trying to coordinate 35 16-year-old girls, after 4 amazing but exhausting days of missions in Cartagena, I was told to go running to talk to Fr. Francisco Ramos, LC. And I said to myself, “Yes, yes now I will go!” They insisted that it be at that moment.

I went running and the priest asked me if I had spoken with Fr. Miguel Segura. I did not understand anything, Father Miguel had not come on the missions with us… 

Fr. Francisco said, “Maca, Father Miguel thought ‘why don’t you join tomorrow?’” 

I think I drowned. I looked at my cell phone and there I had calls and a voicemail from Father Miguel. I called him and he more or less told me: “Look, I thought that since you want María (a friend who lives in Córdoba) to go to your incorporation, and I am going to Madrid from Cordoba tomorrow… We can go together – María and I – and then you can join!” 

I remained silent evaluating this. The truth is that it was very sudden, but perfect. I told him I would talk to my mother, and if she could come, we would go to it. Half an hour later, I was sending this message to my friends: “I am joining Regnum Christi tomorrow at 8:30pm, Fr. Miguel has given this time to me; I understand if you can’t come.” 

Maca makes her commitment to Christ at her Regnum Christi Incorporation Mass

It was a beautiful Mass, with all the people who could attend, where I was thrilled with the commitment I was making. I was pleasantly surprised to receive messages from friends of mine, who do not belong to Regnum Christi, telling me that it had been  one of the most beautiful Masses they had come to. Those who could not go were accompanying me from the heart. 

Well, and after these experiences, what are you looking for in Regnum Christi? 

A way to grow and form myself as a human being, that allows me to help and contribute to others. 

Maca, tell us: what is the phrase that most inspires you? 

¡Hagan lío! [A Spanish phrase that means “Make a mess!” or “Stir things up!” indicating the idea that you get involved and make things happen even if it isn’t perfectly planned.] 

Do you participate in apostolate? 

Yes! We are forming a team to give talks on affectivity and sexuality in parish youth groups. I think that, not only because of what we are going to help them, but also on a personal level, this is going to be great for us to apply it and understand many things that we simply assume. 

Read the original in Spanish. 

29 and Excited to Be Regnum Christi Read More »

Scroll to Top

Looking for another country?

RC Near You

News & Resources

News & Resources

The Regnum Christi Mission

The Regnum Christi Identity

Alex Kucera

Atlanta

Alex Kucera has lived in Atlanta, GA, for the last 46 years. He is one of 9 children, married to his wife Karmen, and has 3 girls, one grandson, and a granddaughter on the way. Alex joined Regnum Christi in 2007. Out of the gate, he joined the Helping Hands Medical Missions apostolate and is still participating today with the Ghana Friendship Mission.

In 2009, Alex was asked to be the Atlanta RC Renewal Coordinator for the Atlanta Locality to help the RC members with the RC renewal process. Alex became a Group Leader in 2012 for four of the Atlanta Men’s Section Teams and continues today. Running in parallel, in 2013, Alex became a Team Leader and shepherded a large team of good men.

Alex was honored to be the Atlanta Mission Coordinator between 2010 to 2022 (12 years), coordinating 5-8 Holy Week Mission teams across Georgia. He also created and coordinated missions at a parish in Athens, GA, for 9 years. Alex continues to coordinate Holy Week Missions, Advent Missions, and Monthly missions at Good Shepherd Catholic Church in Cumming, GA.

From 2016 to 2022, Alex also served as the Men’s Section Assistant in Atlanta. He loved working with the Men’s Section Director, the Legionaries, Consecrated, and Women’s Section leadership teams.

Alex is exceptionally grateful to the Legionaries, Consecrated, and many RC members who he’s journeyed shoulder to shoulder, growing his relationship with Christ and others along the way. He knows that there is only one way, that’s Christ’s Way, with others!